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I recently read a book called "A Path of Heart" by Jack Kornfield, and below are some comments by him reflecting on the transitional period that we may encounter after a workshop. Kornfiled says "After we finish an experience like your recent [Body Electric workshop], we may face a natural loss as you change from one circumstance or setting to another. If the workshop/Intensive fostered an opening of your heart, a quieting of the mind, or simplicity of living, we may fear losing this as we return to the complexities of everyday life. Many experiences may arise within us and the accompanying emotions that go with them. We may imagine or fear that whatever spiritual sensibility has been awakened in the protected retreat environment will disappear. We may feel open or vulnerable, raw or delicate in our senses and emotions, so that in returning to our home and daily routines and struggles we may feel overwhelmed. The more powerful the experience the stronger this fear may be. We may also find it difficult for friends of family to understand us. We may want our life to remain the same as it was at the end of the workshop/Intensive. We may want to hold onto whatever states we encountered. This process is very normal and also part of a letting go and loss. At times we can feel like new born babies who need to be honoured and protected when entering back into the world. To honour this sensitivity we must take care in how we make the transition. This can involve setting aside periods of quiet, changing our schedule to allow for reflection, and giving ourselves enough time to make the transition back into the world. It can help to regularly reconnect with others who participated in your workshop. Together we can laugh, give loving touch and support each other through the cycles of change." I have found myself going through many of these experiences over the years after completing a Body electric workshop. Journaling and making time and space for self-pleasure is one way to integrate your experience. Practicing giving loving touch to friends or your lover is powerful gift and a direct way of keeping your experience alive in the world. After a workshop such as Celebrating the Body Electric where I may have experienced a transformative shift erotically, spiritually and emotionally there is a sense of my experience being in the realm of the sacred. After my first Body electric workshop I initially wanted to remain separate from the men I had connected with. I was feeling very vulnerable and had no framework on how to deal with my experience. It took me a year before venturing back into the Body Electric community. I was trying to look after myself in the best way I knew how. I wanted a safe container in which to reconnect with the men, a space that was safe and respectful and honoured boundaries. I recommend notice what you are feeling, ask what do you want for yourself and seek it out. On your journey be kind and compassionate to yourself. |